Hi everyone! I may be changing the Blog style soon but you will soon understand why...or I'll make a new blog I'm unsure as of yet.
In November of this year my oldest child was diagnosed with Aspberger's Syndrome accompanied by ADHD. A few days late a different Doctor declared PDD (Pervasive Developmental Disorder) with a touch of ADD. Either way my oldest dear one is definitely on the low end of the Autistic spectrum.
This is what I have thought/feared for many months and years. He is 13 and this is considered a very late diagnosis. But both doctors assured me that we were doing the right type of things- he just needs more social circumstances and better relaxation techniques. For those of you who are left in the dark- the issues that most plague my son are: significant social and emotional delays (this is the Autism part), and extreme disorganization(ADD or ADHD) which cause major amounts of anxiety.
So what is a Mom of a child like this to do??? Aside from pray a lot, be patient. Be patient, and try not to be frustrated. And BE PATIENT and try not to be FRUSTRATED!!!!!
Let's just say I am definitely growing in my understanding of patience, frustration and how much I personally can handle these days! Please understand- he is also incredibly creative and funny- I wouldn't want to take either of these things away and they are linked with the issues so no meds for us right now.
So when you hear of someone whose child has issues- please keep this in mind- many Mom's of children with special needs minimize the hardships of their life. This is partly because this is the only way the child has ever been- partly because they don't want to constantly complain.
God Bless you this Holiday Season!
Cindy
The Iceberg Melts
1 year ago
Thanks for sharing. Our son is also special needs and though he is high functioning it comes out most with us at home. Basically there is drama every day and you are so right that PATIENCE is key. Understanding from a different perspective (his) is paramount as well. Yet, I wouldn't trade him for the world, because what he has right (in his heart, in relation to people and God) he has very right and he blows me away. He is also very imaginative and creative. Blessings to you all this Christmas!
ReplyDeleteThank you for the post! Unfortunately- most of my son's issues occur in highly social situations which are out of the house. There is always drama, but I try to provide my family with a safe and secure place to recharge from the craziness of life. It's usually not neat...often not the cleanest...but it's home! Thank you again for confirming to me that these children are very very special just the way they are! :o)
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas to you!